Individual Therapy
Is this you?
I work with adults who’ve been struggling for a while:
with anxiety, self-doubt and self-criticism
with a life transition that feels unexpectedly painful
unsure how to ‘do’ life right
with painful relationships with family, friends and colleagues
overthinking, overanalysing and regularly sidelining their own needs in favour of others
getting regularly caught up in regret, guilt and shame
On the outside, they may look like they’re coping, even thriving. But inside, it feels very different. They want to feel calmer, confident and more self-directed but despite all their efforts, they don’t know how.
If this sounds like you, you may already have spent a long time trying to understand yourself and feel better. Perhaps you’ve listened to experts sharing their wisdom on how to lead an ‘authentic life’, learnt strategies for managing your thoughts and emotions and even been to therapy. And yet despite all the insight, skills and knowledge you’ve gained, you still feel stuck in emotional turmoil and a long way from the peace of mind or self-directed life you’re looking for.
What you may be longing for:
🍃 relief from your anxiety, emotional turmoil and busy thoughts
🍃 to feel more at home and comfortable in your own skin
🍃 to enjoy deeper and more honest relationships with others
🍃 to be able to trust yourself more, speak up for your needs and honour your inner voice
🍃 less self-criticism and self-doubt
🍃 a deeper connection with your emotions and your body
🍃 a way of living that feels authentic and true to who you are and want to be
Why Change Feels So Hard
Modern life, with its constant pressures, responsibilities, expectations and distractions can pull you further away from yourself. It can make it difficult to slow down, be in your body and reconnect with what’s real for you. What you may need isn’t just more insight, but a different way of working.
A space for you to slow down in nature, notice what your body, heart and your mind want you to know and connect with your inner truth. Gently, respectfully and at your pace. Starting with exploration and insight, moving on to change, and deepening your capacity to live in accordance with who you really are, not who others want you to be.
How I Can Help
The patterns of thinking, feeling and acting that feel challenging are often your mind and body’s intelligent survival strategies, shaped by your life experiences. Inner conflict arises when important parts of who you are come into tension with other parts that developed to keep you emotionally—and sometimes physically—safe in your family, school, community or broader society. Living in today’s fast-paced, high-pressure world adds another layer of stress, making it harder to listen to yourself, slow down and find space to simply be.
We all hold the potential for change, healing and growth. Sometimes we need a compassionate guide to walk alongside us as we explore what’s troubling us, reconnect with our inner wisdom and find our way towards self-trust and belonging.
🍃 The Relationship
Coming to therapy is an act of courage, self-respect, and kindness. It gives you space to slow things down, make sense of what you’re feeling and connect with parts of you that have been repressed or unheard - and which offer you the key to change.
The relationship we build together is an important part of the process and supports the changes you are seeking. My role is to listen, support, encourage and guide you. And sometimes, challenge you. Your role is simply to be yourself as you are and share what feels important when you are ready.
If you’re ready to gift yourself this space, I offer a 20-minute initial conversation where we can begin the process and explore whether my approach feels right for you.
What’s different about my approach?
We spend time understanding the nervous system and how it has codified and stored your past experiences in the mind-body. We work with movement and gesture, the symbolism of the surrounding natural environment, playful and creative expression, active reflection and sometimes ritual to access the truths and wisdom held within your body as well as your mind. When we listen to the messages held in the body, we often gain new and surprising insights about who we are and how we meet the world. We discover powerful parts of ourselves that have been hidden often for decades and which we are delighted to welcome back into our lives. I am also able to offer Integrated Eye Movement Technique (a little like EMDR) to release stuck negative memories, feelings and identities. The work is collaborative, supportive and holistic and takes place at your pace.
Through this work you will:
gain an understanding of what is happening in your nervous system and how the strategies it has developed are keeping you stuck in self-criticism, overwhelm and anxiety
be supported to identify and release unhelpful patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving
work with your body, emotions, creativity and intuition to connect with who you really are and what is most meaningful for you
come to know and integrate parts of yourself that have been overlooked or hidden but help to make you whole
find yourself making choices that feel more aligned with you who are - and no longer doubting if they are right
Ultimately what we are seeking to do is help you and your nervous system feel safer, and more embodied, alive and joyful.
🍃The wood is within 5-8 minutes’ walk of a bus stop on the Tunbridge Wells to Brighton bus route no 29 and the Uckfield to Gatwick bus no 500.
"I had just 5 sessions with Lucinda after a series of extremely stressful events had left me feeling panicky and anxious. I felt stuck in a loop, unable to make objective decisions. Her calm approach and ability to make me look at the person I really am has opened my mind to a different way of thinking and encouraged me to push my boundaries. Working outdoors was different and special; it took me back to my childhood and reminded me of how restful and restorative nature can be."
Sally, social worker